As your child becomes involved in athletics, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It’s important to understand there may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. These are the times discussion with the coach is encouraged.
Appropriate concerns to discuss with a coach:
- The mental and physical treatment of your child.
- What your child needs to do to improve.
- Concerns about your child’s behavior.
It is very difficult to accept your child is not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches make decisions based on what they believe is in the best interests of all students participating. As you can see from the list above, certain things can and should be discussed with your child’s coach. Other things, such as those listed next, must be left to the discretion of the coach.
Issues NOT appropriate for discussion with your child’s coach:
- How much playing time each athlete is getting.
- Team strategy.
- Play calling.
- Any situation that deals with other student-athletes.
There are situations that may require a conference between the coach and parent. These are not discouraged, as it is important for each party to have a clear understanding of the others’ position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure is suggested to help promote resolution to the issue. If a parent has a concern to discuss with the coach, the following procedure should be followed:
- Call the coach to set up an appointment.
- If the coach cannot be reached, call the campus athletic coordinator and ask him to set up a meeting with the coach or you.
- Think about what you expect to accomplish as a result of the meeting.
- Stick to discussing the facts, as you understand them.
- Do not confront the coach before, during or after a practice or contest. These can be emotional times for both the parent and coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution of the situation, but often escalate it.